Introduction
As people listen to this podcast and think about where they’re at and think about what things they can do to invest in that fitness, I would say don’t look at the big picture because we end up freezing and we don’t do anything, but take that inventory and then just choose, I’m going to do one thing differently, justone thing, and then let that grow, let that build.Kim Moeller:Hello, I’m Kim Moeller, your host of the Generous Girl Podcast, a podcast allabout generosity and how it is interwoven in five areas, faith, family, fitness,finances, and friendships. You will hear an incredible guest today, DanicaDedmon, and the two pillars we’ll focus on are faith and finances. She’s got quite the story and she will motivate you to want to take the next step in your own journey, whether it’s your career, your calling, your life at home as a mom, your life as a wife, your life as a single woman. So stay tuned.Hi everyone. Welcome to the Generous Girl Podcast. It’s great to have you all back. I’m always so excited about my guests and various people that I’ve been able to meet over the years, and today I am thrilled to have with us Danica Dedmon, and Danica and her husband, Brent, are raising their blended family of two boys in Orange County, California, and together they’re working to create a home away from home in the foothills of the Sierra Mountains, which they’ve named Blue Sky Ranch.Blue Sky Ranch
And their prayer is that this property would blesscouples and families in need of respite from the distractions and noise of everyday life. Danica’s career journey has taken her through various small businesses, financial services, and nonprofit organizations, and currently she serves full-time with Marketplace Chaplains.Marketplace Chaplains
She gets to share the story of this40-year-old ministry with businesses to provide a professional, personal, andproactive employee care service. She volunteers with other nonprofit organizations like Women Doing Well and Marketplace Women of Orange County to invest in her passion for cultivating generosity and alignment of our personal, professional, and spiritual lives. So welcome, Danica.Danica Dedmon:Thank you. I’m so honored to be here with you, Kim.Kim Moeller:It is a real treat to have you here,and I feel like one of the first times we really got to know each other was when we were co-facilitating Women Doing Well Ignite Retreat, and everyone has listened to various podcast episodes, we talk about Women Doing Well and how there’s this pathway called Ignite, and you can do the six different times, one hour each time, but you can also make it compact and do it in one day. So it was a pouring down rainstorm in Southern California that day, it was just a miracle everybody made it there because roads were closed and it was taking several hours.Danica Dedmon:It was crazy.Kim Moeller:It was so crazy. And there we were in this beautiful home in San Marcos, and itwas just a really, really great day with the group of women that I feel like had
- been handpicked to be there. Just those who thought they were coming, they weren’t able to make it, and then those who were there, it was just really, really special. So it was great to just watch you in action with your gifts and your talents and you’re a wonderful facilitator and you have a great story. And today, I feel like for the pillars that will be great to emphasize will be fitness and family,but this time fitness, we’re going to look at it more as emotional fitness rather than physical fitness.
Emotional Fitness and Family
And it’ll be twofold. It’ll be your work with Marketplace Chaplains, which I can’t wait for the listeners to understand more about what that is, and then just your own emotional journey in life and how you have unpacked your own two word purpose statement and you’re using that to help others and to be generous. So, so excited for this time together.Danica Dedmon:I love it. Can’t wait.Raising Kids in Orange County
Kim Moeller:So let’s start, you’re talking about you’re raising your boys in Orange County, and why don’t you tell the listener alittle bit about your background and how you came to be married to Brent and purchase Blue Sky Ranch?Danica Dedmon:Yeah, so we’re a blended family, our boys at the moment are almost 12 and eight and a half. So we’ve got the brand new middle schooler who is loving bouncing around to class to class, and currently emotionally very sad because he’s going to need braces soon, so we’re just navigating all of those preteen things. And our 8-year-old is bouncing around on the soccer field and full of energy, and so it’s been really beautiful and also really trying. I have to bet ransparent that having two boys that are three and a half years apart learn how to have a sibling is serious business.Kim Moeller:Yes.Danica Dedmon:We see that they both are so grateful to have the brother and the playmate, and at the same time it’s a lot of life lessons that we are cramming in of, yeah,just they’re two different boys, yet they compete and all of that. And so I’m super grateful for just the way that God has handpicked Brent to be my partner in it and having a spouse that is just investing so intentionally in the growth of our family and leaning on the Lord to guide that process. We both acknowledge that there is a lot of hurt and there is sin and disappointment, and there’s stuff in our past that has really shaped what got us to the place of needing to look for one another. But sure enough, we found each other on an app and got to connect and share upfront, “This is what I’ve experienced and this is what I’m looking for,” and God has just grown something really beautiful that we’re super grateful for. And so my joke nowadays is that Brent and I did not have a baby together, but we had a ranch, and so that is the infant in our family right now,where we’ve got-Kim Moeller:That’s funny. - Kim Moeller:I love that. I love that you’ve been entrusted with this ranch, you’re raising theboys in Orange County. And I have one boy and three girls,but any friends that have more than one boy, their boys are just always touching each other and hitting each other and they can’t keep their hands to themselves.Danica Dedmon:They know how to push each other’s buttons.Kim Moeller:Yes.Danica Dedmon:Igrew up with one sister, so Brent is one of three boys, but I grew up with one sister, so the whole boy realm of what goes on and what’s normal is just taking some learning for me.Kim Moeller:Yes, yes. Well, it’s learning, whether it’s a blended family,or-Danica Dedmon:Absolutely.Kim Moeller:A non-blended family, for sure. Okay, so one thing you mentioned, to this pointof bringing you both together, and then prior to this recording, you and I were talking a little bit about how you got to that point. So how about if you unpack for the listener a little bit more of your story prior to meeting Brent?
My Story
Danica Dedmon:Right, yeah, and I think that part of it really folds into the why of what I do for work now too, of just looking back at my life, growingup in a Christian home,and just following the rules and following the dominoes of what you do. And ended up getting married very, very early, and my husband at the time was verydepressed and I did not know much about mental illness and did not know how to support him well and wanted to be the savior, and really thought that I was doing what I needed to do as a wife leaning in and being there for him. But it just got to the point where my career was one of those where I was 70 hours probably in the office and I had an infant at home, worried about the care he was receiving, and just heartbroken about what to do with my life at home.And then because I’m spread thin with the way that I was working, did not have the capacity or just knowing what steps to take to take care of myself and grow and discover, how do I navigate what’s next for me? And so I got to the point where once we were divorced and I had some respite under living with my parents again and reinventing, and it’s not a reinvention on my own doing, it’s allowing the Lord to reveal what He has for me, I was able to go through the process of doing this two word purpose statement that you’ve talked to the audience about before, and under Mary’s teaching, discovered my two words Unearthing Treasure
And unearthing is kind of a dirty word. That’s hardwork.Kim Moeller:Tough job.Danica Dedmon:It’s not clean. And that produced such clarity and inspiration for me to feel okayabout what I had gone through, feeling yucky and hard work, knowing that God was bringing treasure to the surface to be held and invested. And so out of that,looking at the pain of my past, building an empathy for people who areexperiencing a family dynamic with mental illness in the mix, building empathy for moms who are trying to make ends meet and raise [inaudible 00:11:01]-Kim Moeller:Trying to juggle it all, 100%.Danica Dedmon:All of that surfaced and allowed me to spend six years serving at MOPSInternational, and so I was able to pour into that passion of motherhood and wanting to serve that cause. And then going through a process with the Lord of feeling like, “Okay, I’m ready to be in a relationship if that’s what you want ofme,” and meeting Brent and having him bring to life some of that other unearthing of treasure, of what could be, what does a healthy relationship looklike between us? And then stepping into a season of feeling the Lord prompting for me to be open to another career change. And I shared with Jenn Tarbell,who you’ve had on the podcast, I shared with her over coffee, “I’m feeling theLord prompting me to be open,” and the next day she heard about this role thatI’m in now.Kim Moeller:Wow.Danica Dedmon:And it was just such a gift for the Lord to affirm, “This role is something that I’ve been prepping you for,” because I have a love for business, I have a love for ministry, and I have this past of coming through a mentally ill dynamic in thefamily, and a feeling of being stuck, and a feeling of not knowing who to confide in, because a lot of us have people in our life, family or friends or coworkers,that we should be able to go to, but a lot of times we don’t because we don’t want to burden them with what’s going on in our heart. And when I heard about what Marketplace Chaplains does of showing up at the workplace and building a trusted relationship that is confidential and non-judgmental and provides practical next steps for people to work through the troubles they’re having in life, it’s like, “Oh yes, of course, I want to further this mission.” It’s just been amazing to see the progression.Kim Moeller:Oh, it’s almost as if God knew that-Danica Dedmon:He does, He does.Kim Moeller:Your background would fit perfectly like a glove. So explain to the listener, whatis Marketplace Chaplains?I know some people know what it is, but I want to- make sure it’s defined in case somebody doesn’t know at all what it is. And maybe they actually want to contact you later and see about having Marketplace Chaplains in their own business.
Marketplace Chaplains
Danica Dedmon:Yeah, I think that the word chaplain gets misspelled a ton and gets misunderstood, people don’t know what it is. If they’ve had any interaction witha chaplain, it’s likely been in the context of a hospital visit, or through military experience, or a chaplainshowing up at a crisis first responder event.Kim Moeller:Very true, and never seen them again kind of thing, one time.Danica Dedmon:Yes. But at its core, a chaplain is there to listen, comfort, provide hope, and anext step. And in the case of Marketplace Chaplains, we’re doing that in the context of a relationship that has been introduced by someone’s employer. Soan employer will partner with us as an organization and say that they would likeus to provide a dedicated team of chaplains to visit the workplace. Now, if they’re remote, we navigate that and do remote outreach.Kim Moeller:Do Zoom calls and that’s neat, so you provide both?Danica Dedmon:Right, we provide both. But the core of what we do is show up and wear thatface to walk through the hallways of an office or a warehouse or a farm, you name it, and connect with the employees. And it serves as a reminder that we’re here for them, because truly we’re there, we’re available to them 24/7.They can call, text, email, set up an appointment, anytime. But that worksite visit is that reminder and that trust builder of consistency.Kim Moeller:I love that model, just because you could be running a steel factory, or youcould have a financial planning company, or a widget company, or whatever itis, and that employer sees the need for soul care and sees the need of, I know it sis a Christian ministry, but I also know that you serve in companies that aren’t Christian and you respect various faiths and you make yourselves available to listen and empathize. And in today’s world, especially this post COVID time, it’sso, so vital, and I just love what Marketplace Chaplain stands for. So sorry, I didn’t mean to cut you off, so keep going.Danica Dedmon:No, it’s perfect, and that’s a great reminder of some of the details around, when we get to know a workplace and the types of employees that are there, we lean into what languages are represented, or what career background should maybe one of our chaplains have in order to best connect with the people that work at a certain warehouse or financial office or whatever the picture may be. And what I love too about the future opportunity is that we’re always looking for people to come on board with us as a chaplain. You don’t have to have an outside certification or degree, we’re looking for people who are great listeners,that have some sort of experience in some sort of care ministry, but we take-Kim Moeller:Pastoral maybe. Align
That’s my word for the year is align. And when I take that time to take inventory and ask the Lord to align what I’m seeing as a crazy mixed up mess, asking him to align thatinventory and then discover a next step, it’s just a really powerful thing. And so Ihope that, as people listen to this podcast and think about where they’re at andthink about what things they can do to invest in that fitness, I would say don’tlook at the big picture because we end up freezing and we don’t do anything,but take that inventory and then just choose, I’m going to do one thingdifferently, just one thing, and then let that grow, let that build.Kim Moeller:I like how prior to this podcast also, you talked about how a word of empathy can also be an act of generosity. And sometimes that is maybe all that a person feels they can give is kind words, and they don’t have the resources or they don’t have the time, but we can always give those kind words. But my husbandand I just got back on Saturday night, today’s Monday that we’re recording this, but we were in Mexico Thursday through Saturday night, and we were buildinga home in two days with the Youth With A Mission group down there. Therewas a conference, and then they had three homes that we built, so we split intothree teams. And it is always so staggering and unbelievable when you just drive40 minutes from North San Diego across that border, and it is another world,same ocean, same mountains, but just the lack of paved roads and all the dirtand the tarps and the homes and shelters that people are living in, that it can bevery overwhelming.And they sharedthe starfish story of the boy on the beach throwing one starfishat a time back in and saying, “Well, how are you helping just by throwing all those one at a time back in?” But he’s like, “If I save one starfish and change onestarfish’s little life, it’ll be worth it,” and this family that we built this house for, they had lived honestly with a blanket as their front door, no lock, little child, six years old, another, a boy, and then a daughter, 11. And we gave them the keysfor the door for her to open it up and then be able to lock it and I just thought, Ican’t even imagine going to sleep the first night, and the mom was in her earlythirties, and it’s the first night she’s ever slept knowing that her kids are under aroof in a home, and the paralyzation is honestly, I can look at it all and just think,wow, the need is just so, so great. But then when we came back and it’s late onSaturday night, and you do feel like, okay, all the dirt roads are still there and all the really massive poverty is still there, but one family has a home because of this team of 25 of us who built this.Favorite Bible Verse, Book, and Bargain
Any current book that you’re reading that’s your favoriteright now?Danica Dedmon:Right now I’m reading Habits of the Household, and I don’t remember theauthor’s name, it might be Justin something. I should look it up anyway.Kim Moeller:That’s okay. I haven’t heard of that book. What’s the high level?Danica Dedmon:It’s just trying to incorporate rhythms for the family that point us backto theLord. And so what are simple rhythms that we can instill in ourselves and ourkids where, from the moment we wake up, instead of checking email, be inscripture, or what are different prayers that we can recite throughout our dayso that we’re setting ourselves up to lean on the Lord through whatever he hasfor us, so it takes you through the wheel of a day and gives suggestions forhabits for the family.Kim Moeller:That’s beautiful. I want to definitely check that out. And any Bible verse that’syour favorite Bible verse?Danica Dedmon:Romans 5, 3 through 5, would be my go-to, and that really speaks to that. TheLord builds character through persevering, and as he does that we can lean onthis hope that he has for us, and so those struggles thatwe go through don’tneed to be a disappointment, we can grow through them and gain hopethrough them. And so that has been a verse for me to hold onto through theyears.Kim Moeller:Oh, that’s beautiful. That’s beautiful. And then finally, any bargain? Surprisingly,a lot of my guests aren’t big bargain shoppers, so whereas I love bargains.Danica Dedmon:I’m a bargain shopper, but I think my suggestion to the audience would be tolook up your local Buy Nothing group. Have you heard of that before?KimMoeller:No, that’s a new one.Danica Dedmon:Buy Nothing.Kim Moeller:Okay.